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No such thing as a broken heart?<\/H1>
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Research finds that breakups aren’t as bad as people expect them to be<\/H2>
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By Dr. Laura Berman<\/P>
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When it comes to breakups, most of us prepare for the worst. From lonely days to sleepless nights, we picture ourselves suffering from an emotional downpour, unable to continue on with the most basic of life\u2019s functions. <\/P>
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<\/SPAN>Luckily, the reality is much less harsh. According to research, breakups aren\u2019t usually the angst-ridden fallouts which we imagine them to be. A recent study published in the May issue of the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology shows that breakups actually tend to be less heartbreaking than we initially fear. And not only is the initial breakup not as crushing as we expect, but the recovery time is also much quicker than we might imagine. <\/P><\/p>\n

<\/SPAN>Why is this? Is there really no such thing as a \u201cbroken\u201d heart? <\/P>
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<\/SPAN>Maybe not. Or maybe we just overestimate how \u201cbroken\u201d breakups can make us feel. The study found that participants greatly overestimated (sometimes up to twice as much) how hurt they would feel by a breakup. Apparently, snapping back from a bad breakup doesn\u2019t take 80 pints of H\u00e4agen-Dazs \u2014 it might just take three or four. <\/P>
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<\/SPAN>However, if you haven\u2019t summoned up the bravery to end a bad relationship, the light at the end of the tunnel might seem impossibly far away. So how do you know if you are ready to go for the split? <\/P>
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<\/SPAN>Check your reasoning.
<\/STRONG><\/B>Why are you so reluctant to leave the relationship? Is it because there is true, lasting love there? Or is it because you don\u2019t want to be alone? Even if your reasoning is \u201cnoble\u201d (such as you don\u2019t want to hurt your partner\u2019s feelings), realize that this doesn\u2019t create a foundation for a happy, healthy relationship. Once you understand that staying together for the dog isn\u2019t fair to either of you (or the dog), you might finally have the courage to call it quits once and for all. <\/P>
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<\/SPAN>Listen to your heart.
<\/STRONG><\/B>It might sound trite, but your heart can sometimes lead you better than your mind. Your mind is going to think of all the reasons why a breakup would be complicated (moving out, telling friends and family, being alone again), but your heart is going to be looking out for you. If the thought of your partner only brings up feelings of sadness and angry, it might be your heart\u2019s way of telling you \u2026 Get out! <\/P>
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<\/SPAN>Don\u2019t expect the world to end.<\/STRONG><\/B>
If your mind is telling you that breaking up is going to be the worst pain of your life, remember the study mentioned above. Human beings are built to snap back from even the worst tragedies, so whether you are ending a three-month affair or a 10-year marriage, your body and your mind have the capability and the desire to get you back on your feet. Sure, it is going to take more than a few girls\u2019 nights out to return you to your happy, confident self, but you will land on your feet. <\/P>
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<\/SPAN>To make it through a breakup with even less drama, stick to these simple guidelines of breakup etiquette: <\/P>
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